Exciting Adventure

I have taken on an incredible challenge. In November I'll be walking 60 miles over the course of 3 days, camping out each night with thousands of others taking this journey with me.

It's for an event called the Breast Cancer 3-Day Walk, which benefits Susan G. Komen for the Cure.

I've never done a walk like this before, so I am nervous about it! Past participants say that it’s not easy, and I need to train seriously for it. I am inspired to get back into shape for this worthy cause, as well as for my son.

I am so excited to be doing this fundraising walk with a wonderful group of 11 fellow Kazakhstan adoptive moms from all over the country! We became close through our shared experiences in adoption. We will be convening in Arizona for the Phoenix walk to support each other as we raise money for this great cause. We traveled 6,496 miles to bring our children home, so walking 60 miles for a cure is no problem! We are keeping a group blog of our quest at http://www.kazmamas.blogspot.com/ I wrote a post there recently about my friends, Angela and Jennifer, who are valiant survivors of this disease. I am humbly walking in their honor.

I hope that you'll share this adventure with me by supporting me in my fundraising efforts. My goal is to raise at least $2,300. Simply visit my personal fundraising webpage to make a donation. ANY amount is appreciated (seriously). Online donations are quick, easy and secure.

Thank you to those who have already donated. I offer my sincerest appreciation for everyone's consideration and support!

Easter and Kaz Friends

Charleston was in full bloom for a beautiful Easter season. We enjoyed coloring eggs, attending 2 egg hunts and exciting visits from 2 other Kazakhstan adoptive families we know through blogland. More on that below. Milo had lots of fun, despite being under the weather and occasionally becoming Mr. McMoodypants. Thankfully he is back to his old self and actually seems even sweeter than before.

I took a million photos during the past week. On with the show!

Oh how I love this boy.

Stylin' and profilin'

Headed to the Easter egg hunt/picnic organized
by the local adoption agency that did our homestudy.
(A Chosen Child)



Asking daddy for a hand up. Soon he will be asking for a twenty.


Like something right out of The Little Rascals



He wears pink well. (So does his daddy.)

I can't decide whether to cut his hair or let it
grow out into a shaggy surfer look for the summer.
In the background you can see a part of the huge playset that
daddy and friends worked hard on putting together this weekend.
It's almost done...photos coming soon!

Enjoying the fragrance of his first hyacinth,
mommy's favorite spring flower.

Pulling his beloved Radio Flyer

Simply scrumptious!

He loves to jump off of any elevated surface
he can find, no matter how slight the elevation.

He loves his dinosaur tent.

But he would never try to destroy it.

Or would he???

Our first visit from a fellow adoptive family was from Kristi & Mieke (Mee-cah), who have been home from Kaz about a year. Kristi is such a neat person who works as an expatriat for the US government. She will soon move to Uzbekistan for a 2-year tour working for the State Department. She will be in familiar terrority since this country is just south of Kazakhstan. Kristi and Mieke stopped by on their way to Florida to visit family. We spent a few minutes at home and then were off to enjoy a great morning at the Middleton Place Plantation Easter Egg Hunt. It was a positively picturesque day, and the kids were so stinkin' cute together.

Milo and Mieke making beautiful music.

Heart and Soul

Little Monkeys

A great day for a picnic

Carrots for the Easter Bunny

What a gentleman


I didn't get a good photo of Kristi, so here is
one I copied from her blog. Aren't they darling?

The second family to visit us was the Ruley family, who stopped by for lunch on their way home to Florida from a wedding. Andrey and Alyona (Alone-Ah) were adopted about a year ago and are siblings. They are absolutely adorable and loads of fun! Matthew and Suzanne are such nice, interesting and multi-talented people. They are musicians and vocalists too, so we have lots in common.

The Lovely Ruley Family

Alyona, Milo and Andrey became fast friends.

Alyona was such a nurturing sweetie.

Milo "helping" Alyona on roller skates.

I'm not sure how much help he was!

Cute Andrey loved playing with Milo's toys.
They share a passion for cars, trains and such.
(The stackable toy bins are from the Land of Nod,
and are one of our favorite purchases.)

I love this photo of Matthew and Suzanne.


The two diva mamas

Frank and Suzanne chatting after lunch

We always love meeting fellow Kaz families in person. There is a special bond that is shared by this close-knit group of people. We have followed each other's journeys and continued to stayed in touch through the months/years since our adoptions were complete. I am ever grateful for the love and support we have received from them. Their encouragement, advice and compassion are priceless to me, and I feel as close to many of them as I do with my longtime friends.

It's remarkable to watch these beautiful children grow up and see how well they do once they have loving families to call their own. We look forward to seeing many more of them in person at Kazapalooza this year!

Much love,
Regina, Frank and Milo

Catching Up

Hello and happy spring!

I am woefully behind on the blog, but it's not because we don't have lots to share. Every day is an adventure. Every hour is something new. It's impossible to sum it all up, but below are a few photos from the last few months, along with commentary. I also added 3 videos of Milo in action.

I have to admit, I'm much better at keeping up via the very convenient Facebook. If your not a member, please join and "friend" me and/or Frank!

Milo is doing fantastically well. We've been home 7 months now. In May it will be 1 year since we met him! We had our 6 month post-placement report and his 6 month adoption doctor follow-up. He is still on the small side for his age, but everything looks great and he's catching up developmentally and emotionally. We will finish out his Early Intervention Therapy until he turns 3 in August, but we won't move on to the next age level because his therapists (EI/OT/Speech) are certain he won't qualify anymore because he is doing so well!

Language is coming along nicely and he knows hundreds of words, but is just starting to put them together. He speaks pretty clearly, but some of his cuter word approximations include:

Kickle = Bicycle
Tiss = Kiss
Dum = Come
Robop = Robot
Dinket = Blanket
Tee-knee = TV
Choose = Shoes
Adin = Again
Airtane = Airplane
Oooosic = Music
Oooburries or Boondies = Strawberries

He still eats like a prizefighter and sleeps like a drunk. Lucky us! We're waiting until he starts climbing out of the crib before we transition him into a toddler bed. It will be any day now and I'm truly shocked our little monkey boy hasn't done it yet.

He is getting tall and has a long, willowy body type despite his hearty appetite. He is still a fearless daredevil who loves to climb, jump, run and dive. His more intense sensory-seeking behaviors are getting better and better, and we are learning new ways to safely give him the sensory input he needs. At home he is pretty calm these days, but when we are in a new environment it can be tough to control his "exhuberance."

Our Kindermusik class has not been easy, but I've stuck it out because he shows improvement each week. He's "that kid" who won't conform to the group activities and wants to just run around much of the time. But he loves being the teacher's helper and is really good with assisting and encouraging the younger children. It's very sweet! He's doing well in pre-school one day a week, although it's still a tearfest when I drop him off. It's hard on both of us, but his teachers say he is just fine the rest of the day and is very well behaved.

Milo had some big issues for several weeks with spitting when he was upset (very frustrating) as well as intensified biting and hitting, etc. But after tweaking our disciplinary techniques we have seen huge improvements. On this note, for adoptive parents I highly recommend the educational video series "Because They Waited," by Heart of the Matter Seminars. This video does a great job of summing up all the information out there on adoption parenting in an easy-to-digest format. It's geared toward kids who have been mildly-to-moderately affected by institutionalization, which is so much more applicable than the "gloom and doom" training we had through adopteducation.com. Watching it recently made a big difference for us when we needed it most.

Potty training is still in the works. When we got serious about it Milo decided he wasn't having any part of it, so we backed off. We eased into it again slowly, and this week he has made leaps and bounds, asking us to go often and even in public. I think we're ready to try some underwear-only days around the house. Wish us luck!

Milo's favorite things in the world right now are still Thomas the Tank Engine and tractors, trucks, airplanes and ALL things cars, including the movie Cars. Many nights he wants to go to sleep with his Thomas train or a toy car in his hand. He also loves to "drive" our car. I wish I had captured the look on his face when I let him actually drive the car down the driveway sitting in my lap. Ecstasy! He is finally able to color with crayons and play with Play-Doh without trying to eat everything, so that has been a great milestone. He is utterly fascinated by basic mechanics and engineering. He can never just play with a toy -- he has to figure out how it works and/or take it apart too.

Milo's vibrant personality continues to blossom like a spring garden. When he turns on the charm there's nothing like it. He's so cute and quite funny for a 2.5 year old. His giggle is infectious, and when he gets excited about something I love to see the light in his eyes and hear the lilt in his voice. He is as determined and stubborn as ever too. I hope that his will-of-steel serves him well in life, even though it makes some of our days together trying.

I have seen an important change take place in Milo over the last few months. It is that he really understands that we are always going to be there for him. That we are his forever family. He really trusts us. He has learned to love openly and is allowing himself to be loved completely. It feels so good. His sincere hugs, kisses and snuggles are the stuff of dreams. He brings us such JOY. Helping him grow up is an absolute honor and a privelege, and we want nothing more than for him to be happy. I just hope we can do him justice.

"Where is my agent???"

Hanging out with new friend Cora-Lynne
(originally from France) at Charlestowne Landing.


On a recent roadtrip to NC we stopped to say hello
to the Kieffer family, recently back from Kaz
with their beautiful daughter, Elloree. She joins
her Kaz brother, Rhys, who is a little older than Milo.


The Kieffers were such big supporters
during our adoption process. We are so happy
they finally have completed their family!

We also visited our friends, Sean and Julia
who have also been wonderfully supportive.
In fact, they are one of the most enthusiastic
couples in our group of "non-parent" friends.



Enjoying the early spring mountain views on our trip.
Yes, we have a monkey backpack "leash" on Milo.
It's not our favorite thing, but essential when
running around on mountaintops!



Petting a purring barn cat
at the estate of Carl Sandburg.

Filing mommy's nails.
Actually, it's more like stabbing.

Eager to hop in the car to go bye-bye

and looking like such a little BOY.

Again with my shoes!

Loving the slide and flashing that smile.

I kiss this face 5000 times a day.

Check out his double cowlick. I pulled a section of his
hair back in this photo so you can see them both clearly.
They swirl in opposite directions, sometimes causing
his hair to "cone" on the top of his head.

This is his "I know I'm being naughty" look.

In a timeout, Al Bundy style.

He still sucks his thumbs to self soothe.
Here is the callous that has formed on one of them.

VIDEOS:

Playing with his friend, Cora-Lyne
at Charlestowne Landing

He really gets around on his "kickle."

Pretending to sleep is his favorite pastime.

Sunny Disposition

You'd better eat something salty to counteract all the
sweetness you are about to encounter!

Super Silly
Toddler Talk Translation:
"Dike it" = I don't like it.
"Dum" = Come.

Mr. Giggles
Sweet music.

Happy O-Nine

Hello good people of the world! Happy New Year to you all, and Happy New President!!!

We had an enjoyable Christmas holiday. We took our first family road trip and drove up to Indianapolis to visit my family. It's a 12+ hour drive, so we thought it wise to split it into 2 days. It's hard to fly with our dogs, and we wouldn't dream of leaving them behind. It was frigidly cold during the trip, so it was tough to be cooped up most of the time in my parent's house. But we loved spending quality time with "mamaw" and "papaw" as Milo so cutely pronounced grandma and grandpa. It seemed like he remembered them from their visit to Charleston for his homecoming. He was really comfortable with them and I just love watching them together. I desperately wish they lived closer.

Our big celebration was Christmas Eve at my sister's house, where Milo met all of his family. He quickly got the hang of opening gifts. He received many wonderful things and lots of love from everyone. He was the center of attention and his exuberant personality shone brightly as usual. He did get overstimulated, but behaved pretty well for being in a totally new environment, with all the excitement and new faces.

Quality Time with Grandma

Naughty or Nice?

Loving Grandpa's Giant Remote

At My Sister's House

Sweet Boy

Swinging with Uncle Mark and Daddy

Showing Cousin Carissa How it's Done

Sharp Dressed Man

My Sister's Beautiful Tree

Rockin' Gift from Grandparents

Hot Chocolate

Milo did splendidly during the car trip! I sat in the back with him to help keep him entertained, and we borrowed a portable DVD player from a friend. It was a hit and it helped more than we expected. The movies Cars (a great little movie) and Thomas the Tank Engine (a strange little series) are now his favorites! (He has begged for -- and watched -- both of them almost every day since.) It was when we returned home that he lost it. All the excitement and relief to be home must have caught up with him. He was unsettled for two days.

To ring in the New Year we just stayed home and watched the ball drop on television (Ryan Seacrest is a sorry substitute for Dick Clark!) At midnight we kissed, and then tiptoed into Milo's room and gave him a little kiss too. For me the dawning of a New Year, while fun, usually feels just like any average moment in time. It's the spring season that feels like the year's fresh start in my mind. But for some reason the birth of 2009 felt fresh and new to me this year. I'm not sure why, but surely it has something to do with all the drama of 2008. :-)

Sweet Milo is thriving and growing like a weed. He is now 29 months old, and has been home for 5 months. Since coming home he has gone up 2 shoe sizes (from a 5 to a 7.) Also, he is now wearing 24 mos. clothing instead of 12-18 months, although he's long and lean and needs adjustable waist pants. He still eats well, but his body type is just stretching out all the baby fat. He is very strong and has great muscle tone, especially in his legs. That's probably because he squats down a lot to play (It must be genetic because in Kazakhstan all the men are always squatting. This is even how they hang out to chat on a street corner together.) He still wears a size 3 diaper because his of his tiny hiney, but we are almost ready for a size 4. We have used mostly Pampers, but tried many other brands. We found that Luvs seem to be just as good for less money, and we also really like the 7th Generation chlorine-free brand. They're expensive though. Speaking of diapers, a more focused potty training regimen is about to begin -- really! I hope it won't be too much of a struggle. He sits on the potty fine now if we take him, but not for long. He will go if he has to, but won't let us know ahead of time.

He was recently evaluated by a speech therapist. She determined that his language skills already fall within the normal range for his age. It's the low end of normal, but that's still amazing! She will check back a few times over the next few months just to make sure he is still on target. Our Early Intervention therapist thinks he is progressing enough to no longer qualify for services soon, which was exciting to hear! We also started seeing an Occupational Therapist (via this same Early Intervention program.) She is helping us with Milo's sensory-seeking behaviors and with finding tricks and activities for calming him when he gets overstimulated.

All of these services have stemmed from the No Child Left Behind Act, and are available to any child in the USA who qualifies. They bill your insurance, and whatever is not covered is picked up by the state. The therapists come to our home too if you prefer it, so it is no cost and no hassle. In South Carolina you go through BabyNet, but I'm not sure about other states. Milo barely qualified as "delayed" but I didn't want to take any chances, so I went ahead with the services. He certainly seems to be caught up now in just about every area.

Our biggest news is that we decided to put Milo in daycare for 1 day a week on Mondays. Last week was our first time. Although he cried for a few moments he did well the rest of the day! He loves being around children and we think it will help his socialization skills, not to mention give me a needed break and allow me the time to complete my freelance work and other projects uninterrupted. The constant juggling and late nights working were just too stressful. I just needed 1 full day a week to focus. Can you tell I'm feeling guilty about it? I know I shouldn't, and that it is the right balance for us all.

We started participating in a very active local playgroup for "natural-minded moms," which has been really nice. They have a Yahoo Group I've followed for a long time and I finally jumped into their events. Milo also starts Kindermusik in 2 weeks. This program is highly recommended by many people, so I really look forward to it. Milo is still very sociable, although now he is sometimes shy at first. This is new, but it's actually a good thing. As many of you know "indiscriminate friendliness" is common among adopted children who have had many caretakers. Some degree of "hiding behind mom's skirt" is healthy, and he definitely does that now.

It is fascinating to see his personality continue to emerge. He is all boy, whether talking about his preferred toys or his behaviors. All except for the shoe obsession ... he still loves shoes. But I guess that's not really gender-specific at this age. The other day I walked into the living room to see him standing in front of the TV wearing in my favorite heels, watching Handy Manny. I had a good chuckle and grabbed the camera.

Milo seems to be very mechanically inclined. He wants to figure out how most toys work rather than play with them. He still loves music, dancing and books too, but we see a strong technical side emerging. He surprises us with how much he can figure out. He has recently become fiercely independent ("I do it!") even when he is unable to "do it." I let him try, and of course I help him when he finally asks.

Milo still loves to laugh and be a silly clown. His belly laugh lights up every cell in my body. He is still incredibly curious and fearless, with a "sieze the day" attitude. But he can be very strong-willed and persistent in trying to get his way. Oh yes, a stubborn little mule! He is learning to manipulate too. It's funny (but hard) to see him being "dishonest." For instance he asks for a hug when he really just wants to get to whatever is on the countertop I'm standing next to. Or he says he's hungry just for attention.

He has reached a whole new level with giving and receiving affection. He was always affectionate, but when he sits on my lap, he now reaches back and pulls my face down to his and presses my cheek against his cheek. I have always done this, and now he seems to crave it. It's divine. The last couple of months he has preferred mommy to daddy, which is not unusual but it was hard on Frank. This has become better balanced again, much to Frank's relief.

Milo is still a very active boy who needs constant sensory experiences. I did some research and my theory is that it’s from being understimulated as a baby, causing him to be hypo-sensitive and require lots of input now. Over time we have definitely seen that he is growing much calmer and more able to focus. He has had many laid-back days lately. On the days when he does become a whirlwind, I can tell the minute he wakes up that his mind is racing and that it's going to be a rough day. It doesn't seem to be sleep-related (still sleeps like a rock) but we can't pinpoint what sets him off in a tizzy some days.

Well, it was bound to happen. Frank and I had our first round of parenting-related spats. That was interesting. I went back and read our November 27, 2007 post where I made some predictions about this. I also re-read all the wise comments. It helped me remember that this is all part of the experience of parenthood. We worked things out of course, and are wiser from it. We had another date night to attend a friend's wedding recently. Milo cried when we left, but not for long. He did great with his sitters (Frank's brother and his 2 daughters) and Frank and I enjoyed our time immensely. We have a goal of getting out together once a month.

After hitting the ground running, we have hit a pretty comfortable stride as a family. Milo seems very content too. I often find myself just staring at my beautiful, brilliant son. I guess it's not in bad taste to gush about his gorgeousness, intelligence or charm since he is not my genetic offspring! I just can't help it. I am in awe. I am so humbled by the privilege of being his mother. He is a very special boy.

Until next time, enjoy these photos of his first ever ride on his tricycle. Notice the "Mater" shoes from the movie Cars? Another great gift from my parents.

I've added a "Followers" tool to the sidebar for anyone who wants to be notified of blog updates. Oh, and by the way Frank and I joined Facebook, so if you're on it look us up. Cheers from Charleston!



P.S. Did anyone out there send us the "Fridge Phonics" set from Target as a Christmas gift? It had the wrong packing list inside and we have no idea who it came from.